Sandy Warner ~ ~ ~ ~


Someone asked me today about soul ties.  Soul ties are when you have an emotional bond with people, where your heart is open and vulnerable to them.  It is also when you trust and perhaps lean on them for help instead of the Lord.  The doors they have open in their lives ends dumps on you simply because of the ties you have in your own soul with them.  It is possible to be in the world and not of the world and to love people with God's love but not be vulnerable to them with your own needs. 


Soul ties can take place through the 3 kinds of love.  Agape love, Philio love, and Eros love. 



Being knit in Agape love is experiencing God’s love back to Him, and this is His love that we have for one another.  This is a healthy, united, affectionate love where we are knit together in God and His family.  The word has its base in a logical choice to love, as in a decision.


Matt 22:37-40 NKJV

Jesus said to him, "'You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.'  38 This is the first and great commandment.  39 And the second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'  40 On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." 


Col 2:1-2 NKJV

For I want you to know what a great conflict I have for you and those in Laodicea, and for as many as have not seen my face in the flesh, that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together {4822} in love.




NT:4822 sumbibazo (soom-bib-ad'-zo); from NT:4862 and bibazo (to force; causative {by reduplication} of the base of NT:939); to drive together, i.e. unite (in association or affection), (mentally) to infer, show, teach:

KJV - compact, assuredly gather, intrust, knit together, prove.




NT:26 agape (ag-ah'-pay); from NT:25; love, i.e. affection or benevolence; specially (plural) a love-feast:

KJV - (feast of) charity ({-ably}), dear, love.



PHILIO LOVE – Friendship, Family love, Marriage love


Philio love is a family love and a friendship love.  This kind of love is emotional and has its base more in a heart choice to love more than a logical decision to love.




NT:5368 phileo (fil-eh'-o); from NT:5384; to be a friend to (fond of {an individual or an object}), i.e. have affection for (denoting personal attachment, as a matter of sentiment or feeling;


while NT:25 (agape) is wider, embracing especially the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety: the two thus stand related very much as NT:2309 and NT:1014, or as NT:2372 and NT:3563 respectively; the former being chiefly of the heart and the latter of the head); specifically, to kiss (as a mark of tenderness):

KJV - kiss, love.


1 Sam 18:1, 3 NKJV

Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit {7194} to the soul of David , and Jonathan  loved him as his own soul...Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.


Gen 44:30-31 NKJV

"Now therefore, when I come to your servant my father, and the lad is not with us, since his life is bound up {7194} in the lad's life, it will happen, when he sees that the lad is not with us, that he will die.


Gen 2:24 AMP

 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave {1692} to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Matt 19:5; 1 Cor 6:16; Eph 5:31-33.) 





OT:7194 qashar (kaw-shar'); a primitive root: to tie, physically (gird, confine, compact) or mentally (in love, league):

KJV - bind (up), (make a) conspire (-acy, -ator), join together, knit, stronger, work {treason}.




OT:5315 nephesh (neh'-fesh); from OT:5314; properly, a breathing creature, i.e. animal of (abstractly) vitality; used very widely in a literal, accommodated or figurative sense (bodily or mental):


KJV - any, appetite, beast, body, breath, creature, dead (-ly), desire, {dis-} contented, fish, ghost, greedy, he, heart (-y), (hath, jeopardy of) life (X in jeopardy), lust, man, me, mind, mortally, one, own, person, pleasure, (her-, him-, my-, thyself-), them (your)- selves, slay, soul, tablet, they, thing, (X she) will, would have it.




OT:1692 dabaq (daw-bak'); a primitive root; properly, to impinge, i.e. cling or adhere; figuratively, to catch by pursuit:

KJV - abide fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard after), be joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, stick, take.


1 Sam 20:17  NKJV

Now Jonathan again caused David to vow, because he loved him; for he loved him as he loved his own soul.


2 Sam 1:25-27  NKJV

"How the mighty have fallen in the midst of the battle! Jonathan was slain in your high places.  26 I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan; You have been very pleasant to me; Your love to me was wonderful, Surpassing the love of women.  27 "How the mighty have fallen, And the weapons of war perished!"


Prov 18:24 NKJV

A man who has friends must himself be friendly,  but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.


1 Chron 12:17-18 AMP

David went out to meet them and said to them, If you have come peaceably to me to help me, my heart shall be knit to you; but if you have come to betray me to my adversaries, although there is no violence or wrong in my hands, may the God of our fathers look upon and rebuke you.  18 Then the Spirit came upon Amasai, who was chief of the captains, and he said, Yours we are, David, and on your side, you son of Jesse! Peace, peace be to you, and peace be to your helpers, for your God helps you. Then David received them and made them officers of his troops.


EROS LOVE – Erotic sexual love

Soul ties can happen in sexual relationship outside of marriage.  It is important that these sins are renounced and soul ties cut off to close demonic doors.


Gen 34:1-3  AMP

NOW DINAH daughter of Leah, whom she bore to Jacob, went out {unattended} to see the girls of the place.    2 And when Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he seized her, lay with her, and humbled, defiled, and disgraced her.   3 But his soul longed for and clung to Dinah daughter of Jacob, and he loved the girl and spoke comfortingly to her young heart's wishes.  





Soul ties can leave one open and vulnerable to demons.  The following is from my book, Ministering Deliverance.  The following notes are from Frank Hammond’s booklet called Soul Ties, and reprinted in my book with his permission before he died.



{From Frank Hammond’s booklet, Soul Ties}


(Frank’s website:


Soul ties are derived from the Greek words ‘joined and fellowship’.  They mean to cleave to, be glued or cemented.  (Mat 19:6, Eph 4:16, I Cor 1:10, I Cor 6:15, I Cor 5:6,7, I Cor 6:17)  OT: (Num 25:3, Ps 106: 28, Hos 4:17)


Demons enter soul ties when the boundaries God has set for relationships are violated. Unholy soul ties occur:


Ž  in past sexual relationships - including all levels of petting.   (1 Cor 6:16)


Ž  w/ evil companions, friends, close business relations. (I Cor 15:33, Prov 22:5)


Ž  pets - when treated as family, or taking the place of people.    (Gen 2:20)


Ž  perverted family ties  - to leave and cleave is vital. (Eph 5:31)


Ž  the dead - there is a time limit for mourning the dead.  After that, one is to let go.  (Num 20:29, Deut 34:8)


Ž  factions within the church - cliques and divisions.   (1 Cor 12:24,25)

      Other unholy soul ties can be indirectly related through


Ž  ear piercing and body piercing - becomes slave to master. (Ex 21:5,6)


Ž  tattoos - connection with the idol of the mark. (Lev 19:28)


Soul ties happen when there is an emotional bond with whomever or whatever there is an attachment.  Soul ties often manifest through priorities.  If the attachment is taking the place of the Lord, Who is our Source, then it reveals itself by being out of balance with the rest of life, through time, emotions and focus.



Words from the The Quickened Word are excerpts from the journals of Sandy Warner.  To better understand how God speaks, read Sandy’s book, “101+ Ways God Speaks, And How to Hear Him.”  Website:    Email:  







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