Sandy Warner ~ ~ ~ ~



Many years ago someone that I felt accountable to expressed reluctance in reading my first book prior to publication.  This person did not want to “judge” my work due to our relationship.  I was unable to understand the depth of such a statement and wrestled with that concept for many repeating cycling with various people until the Lord brought me full circle.   At that point I had experienced this divine wrestling/ tension several times from both sides of the fence of being accountable for the release of others testimonies and also being accountable to others for the release of my own.  It is from that place I feel the burden of the Lord to share the following.



When a person starts to move higher in faith experiences with the Lord, they start to experience a divine tug-a-war with those they are bonded to that are still “grounded” in their flight.  It is like flying a kite, and the tension between the person on the earth holding the string, and the “kite” who is stretching and yearning to go past the boundaries of what is extended to them.  As long as there is a person holding onto the string on the ground, the kite is able to soar higher and higher as the person releases a little bit of string at a time.  It is the very tension that brings the kite its stability to go higher. But if the person lets go of the string, or the tension on the string drops, so does the kite.  If not recovered or passed to another person, the kite falls to the ground and so does faith.


The string represents several things at once:  the bonding between the two people, the trust-relationship and discernment between the two, and last but not least, the string represents the faith of both.  It is a divine teamship that God uses in both lives.  And it is in that place between the two that this mutual dance in the Spirit takes place on the ground and in the air. 


The person in the air is caught in the yearnings of having tasted levels of the supernatural and wanting release to stretch into more.  They experience emotional tragedies when what they experience is not immediately validated by the one on the ground.  They suffer the desires to be understood and not judged, to be accepted and not rejected.  They want to be equally yoked in experience and faith with the one holding their string.  And most of all, they feel unstable in their faith journey and desperately need to feel validated... that what they are believing IS a safe place, even if they are suspended in the air without feet on the ground.  It is a very painful place to be the unstable kite and caught between the tensions of finding God and sticking with the person holding their string. 


The person on the ground is caught in their own yearnings to soar, but experiencing the gravity of doubt and unbelief due to not having taken the same flight.  They suffer the self torment of condemnation and shame, thinking something is wrong with them since they are not experiencing the same.  They worry about the one they are watching and holding, lest he falls flat on the ground and they have to pick up the broken pieces.  They worry that they are missing their divine visitation.  They fight their tendency of being critical, negative and exacting.  They struggle between the divine tension of trying not to judge, yet remaining grounded in scripture, wisdom and discernment.  They feel the tension of hopelessness that they will never experience their feet off the ground, and the yearnings of God’s draw upon their hearts to leave the gravity behind. 


This divine call upon the two hearts, of taunt wrestling and tension, is the string of their mutual faith, yearning and desiring more of God and not knowing how to gain it so they both can fly.   It IS a divine call that God uses in both lives.  I have witnessed this scenario so many times in my communications.  Couples in marriages are suffering this tension.  Pastors and their sheep are experiencing this.  Parents and children, friends with friends; any place you find a bonded relationship where opinions matter, where faith matters, where finding God matters. 



It has been prophesied that each generation is climbing higher in God than the previous generation.  In very simple terms, it is a part of the fruit that comes from the mystery of bonding.  When I was in child growth and development class in college, I learned that there are patterns in human development where we advance in our abilities to stand on our own two feet without having to “check in” and make sure that we are OK.  This need to check in did not take place without an emotional bonding. 


They have done many studies of this, from infancy on, where the infant needs to have direct contact with their caretaker.  As long as they are getting this check in time, they feel like their lives are safe.  When they go through the stages of crawling, toddling, walking, running... they have done studies of “normalcy” where the child usually goes so many minutes before popping back to their caretaker.  I watched this with my own son as he was growing up.  He would be on the floor playing with toys, and suddenly he would get up, run to me for a hug, or to say something and then he would go right back to what he was doing.  Later it was not a touch or a word, but gaining direct eye contact with me, even if in the other room or much farther away.  As he grew older, his “check in” times became farther apart.


I watched this with my grandson the other day.  He was enjoying his new ability to crawl and he was on the floor and up into my arms and then sliding back down again in less then a minute.  He simply needed his check in time to make sure nothing had changed and all is fine!  


We cant really understand the mystery of this bonding, but it also happens when we grow up in maturations of faith and experience.   When we read experiences that previous generations had in revival or relationship, this grounds us that our God is the same, yesterday, today and forever.  When we read His Word and see that others have read it in like mind and heart, we receiving a grounding that helps us check our state of being.  And of course we check in daily with God and He reassures us we are growing fine and everything is going to be OK.   


When I am with my grandson I am taking delight in each and every progress he is making in his journey of discovery and growing.  I dont want to hinder him from discovery and stretching his muscles and life outside the boundaries of being directly held.  But when he pulls himself up near tables, my hand is gently resting on the corner, lest he fall on the sharp part.  He may or may not know my hand is there.  But my hand is there because I know by experience what that corner can do.  It is the same in our faith and our relationship with the generations who have gone through these things.  Decisions and changes of directions are corners where we need a safe covering by a loving and watchful hand.


When connecting with another generation, common denominators ground us and equip us to grow stable.  There is a tension to want to cut the apron strings in order to increase territory.  But cutting the strings is not God’s perfect will.  He said one generation is not made perfect without the other. 


Heb 11:40 AMP

Because God had us in mind and had something better and greater in view for us, so that they [these heroes and heroines of faith] should not come to perfection apart from us [before we could join them].


God is wanting ALL to grow up into Him and find their way and He uses the mystery of bonding to accomplish this.  The stretching of apron strings is just like the tension between the kite and the ground.  God uses the tension between the generations to draw the one, and pull the other, bringing both to Himself.  It is not possible without the string between the two. 



There are times that snares occur when the grounded one and the soaring one wrestle so badly that the strings of faith, bonding and relationship wind up in a ball of knots.  All comes to a halt as we wait upon God to unravel a mess.


In our relationships with one another and with God, all need to repent of grieving the Holy Spirit for bad attitudes, argument, wrong motives, stubborn opinions, striving, judging and harsh words.  Repent means to sincerely change and walk in a different way and with a different heart.


The soaring one needs to find a wisdom and balance between keeping what are holy pearls meant for the holy place, and sharing what is meant for those on ground level. 


The one on the ground needs to find the faithfulness and patience to support the person without being critical and negative. 


The soaring one needs to trust God to bring validation if he is not receiving any support from the one holding his emotional strings. 


The one on the ground needs to remain faithful in prayer and work on communication skills so as not to damage the strings of relationship. 



In my observances of so many people, the pain and divine tension that I have witnessed seems to be a result of what I have called unequally yoked faith.  It is where the faith, gifts, experiences between the two reciprocating people seemingly are not matched to be able to validate either position.  When the faith gets balled up, it results in the hopelessness of being stuck in the same place and without remedy for change.


After so many years of observance, I have come to the conclusion that what God has joined together, is yoked for a purpose:  HIS PURPOSE.  It is a very simple thing for Him to catapult someone off the ground.  And it is a very simple thing for His wind to release a kite higher.  But instead, He uses this divine dance between earth and heaven to grow up His kids into His likeness and His love. 


Earth and heaven are connected between two hearts of faith and when both are connected, love is the divine current that pours up and down the string, oiling and smoothing the kinks, so that both can find their way to God. 


Rom 15:5-8 NKJV

Now may the God of patience and comfort grant you to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus, that you may with one mind and one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.  Therefore receive one another, just as Christ also received us, to the glory of God.


1 Cor 1:10 NKJV

Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.


Eph 4:1-4 NKJV

I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.



Words from the The Quickened Word are excerpts from the journals of Sandy Warner.  To better understand how God speaks, read Sandy’s book, “101+ Ways God Speaks, And How to Hear Him.”  Website:    Email:  







free web page counters