Sandy Warner ~ ~ ~ ~



[I was praying about suffering instability in relationships.  I have been hearing about all kinds of people who are miserable in their jobs, marriages and churches and it seems like they are all complaining about the same thing: relationships.]


HEARD:  To stand at the door and knock.  The prayers of the righteous.  They avail much.  Vigilant.   


Col 4:2-3 NKJV

Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it with thanksgiving;


HEARD:  Handle this relationship.

PIX:  I saw an umpire do the safe sign as someone was coming into home base. 


HEARD:   Daddy’s home.  I will help you.  Balance.  Do not be afraid.


PIX:  I saw someone kept pressing the  “Control” button over and over again. 


HEARD:  Setting you free from all that ensnares.  Blanket.  Comfort us, Your beloved children.  And minister in the affairs of life.  Peace. 


Rom 12:18 NKJV

 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.


Eph 4:1-3 NKJV

...with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.


Heb 12:14-16 NKJV

 Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;


HEARD:  I helped you to be stable. 



I always use my mini hand recorder to speak what I hear and see instead of writing it.  The last thing I recorded was “I helped you to be stable.” 


So today Wayne and I went shopping and while he was in the post office I got out my pocket PC to read some Words to Ponder. At the very moment I slide the scroll button to the following, I heard my own voice say, “I helped you be stable!” It totally shocked me as I stared at my pocket PC wondering how it was speaking to me! I knew it was a God moment but was certainly startled and puzzled.

Then I remembered tucking my voice recorder into my purse on the way out the door which was now on the floor of the car. I must have kicked that part of my purse with my toe when I reached to get my PPC. So all of this is happening at the SAME time I am sliding my PPC stylus down the scroll bar on the Ponders. When I felt quickened to stop the sliding, without knowing what the Ponder was, it stopped on the following!



Just like a computer needs a certain background file that debugs internet server information to keep it running stable and secure, so do you.  There are spiritual operations that run in the background of your life and help you process all the things that you face from day to day.  They help you do your tasks and remain stable and secure.  These operations are hidden places and not visible, just like underlying computer files.  It is vital that these “files” be put in the correct “directory.” 


When your source is in the wrong “direction”, the very thing that kept you emotionally sound, will turn into a virus that eats away your soul and causes you to suddenly freeze up and emotionally crash. Beloved when your source for stability and comfort is turned the wrong direction, your tendency to crash will increase until everything comes to a standstill.  Listen to your patterns and understand the process.  The ways of the world offer fleshly comfort, but the end is destruction.  Only what comes from My Holy Spirit will feed your life with abundance and constancy.  Lean on Me and pray over all your tasks and all that you process in your day.  As you commit your way to Me, I will surely lead you and keep you stable.


Prov 1:33 NKJV

But whoever listens to me will dwell safely, and will be secure , without fear of evil."


Heb 12:28-29 AMP

Let us therefore, receiving a kingdom that is firm and stable and cannot be shaken, offer to God pleasing service and acceptable worship, with modesty and pious care and godly fear and awe;  For our God [is indeed] a consuming fire. [Deut 4:24.] 


APPLICATION:  Today at lunch Wayne and I had been talking about stability in relationships with people.  And we had been talking about the different personality types and how some clash.  I realized when we were talking that for me personally, I need God’s peace to remain stable.  And I find God’s peace in my relationships only when I find harmony in places where we meet.  If there is discord I lose that vital peace.  Therefore I need harmony in my relationships to keep me stable.  It is part of my calling in being a peace maker and an intercessor through bridging the gap in places that are not in harmony in the body.  However it is not always possible to keep that harmony and I was talking to Wayne about that.  So after reading the above Word to Ponder to Wayne he said, “Hmmmmm sounds like God wants to D-bug your relationships.”


Wayne said, “Some personality types are not harmonizers by nature. So you must learn to put them into the right directory or category in your life and the other people in other directories and never let them cross. He said never allow a certain personality type to have authority over your life. Keep them at arm’s length. Live day by day and dont do anything that causes you to worry 5 days in advance when it comes to approaching stressful relationships. The Lord is telling you to look back and listen to the long track record so you dont have to go around this track again.”

I gulped pretty hard and asked him to please repeat that so I could type it into my rhema!!!!!

For myself, I see compartments or directories in my life as the expectations I have in people. I have learned that in certain personality types to have no expectations when it comes to having healthy, equally reciprocal, relationships. Even if they learn to give, it is rarely balanced and equally yoked in a reciprocal relationship. Much of this has to do with trying to force something to connect on the level we want that just isn’t God ordained. I have learned that to gain my peace over unresolved relationships is to change my expectations.


INCREDIBLE TIMING CONFIRMATION  JOEL OSTEEN:  So just as I am finished typing above, I decide to go in and watch some God TV.  Joel Osteen was on and the first thing I heard him say was:


“She didn’t do it on purpose, we just have different personalities and different strengths!”


That got my attention!!!  So I typed the following quotes from the show in hopes that it would bless others.  This is from Podcast #395, Recognizing What Battles to Fight.


Here are some quotes from the sermon:

“Bringing tension into the house, getting uptight, it finally dawned on me, Joel this is not a battle worth fighting.  $10 a month in electricity, is worth keeping the peace in my home.  What’s my point?  The reward was not big enough for the heartache it was causing me.” 


“How many battles are you involved in that don’t have big enough rewards?  You may be right and win the victory but a lot of time we come out so battle scared and beat up, wounded, mad at ourselves, tension into the house. Recognize that battle does not have big enough rewards.  You’d be better off to be the bigger person, to let it go for the sake of peace.”


“Not every battle is worth fighting, some are simply distractions to try to lure us from our destiny.  If there are no spoils, that’s not a battle worth fighting.”


“Trying to prove themselves to people, trying to win over all their critics, playing up to someone and trying to get their approval.  Those are all distractions, we need to choose our battles wisely.  We’re not supposed to be in a fight mode all the time.  A warrior just doesn’t fight any battle, he only fights battles where there is a spoil.  If its not between you and your God given destiny, you should simply ignore it.” 


“Somebody doesn’t like you?  Somebody doesn’t want to be your friend?  Somebody is rude to you at the office?  That’s not worth starting world war 3.  

No one person can me give everything I need.  I am not going to get frustrated and try to change somebody or try to make somebody give me something that they dont have.


“Spending years and years trying to win the approval of someone.  Sacrificing their own goals to try to impress a boss or win over one of their critics.  The problem is that person is never going to give them their approval.  We need to accept that fact that not everyone is going to like us and not everyone is going to agree with us.”


“I could compliment them every hour, send them flowers every day, mow their lawn every week but this person is never going to like me.  You should not waste your valuable time and energy trying to change their mind.  If you will let that go.,..  then God will not only send you people that accept and approve you, but He will send people that celebrate you.  People that celebrate your talents, celebrate your personality and celebrate your accomplishments.  You wont have to constantly be trying prove yourself, walking on egg shells, hoping that you are good enough.  No you can just relax and be who God made you to be and they’ll think you are the greatest thing in the world.”


“Quit wasting your time trying to win somebody over that never going to be won over.  Quit trying to make somebody love you that’s never going to love you.  Quit trying to persuade you to be your friend when they are never going to be your friend.  If you have to constantly play up to them and convince them you are important and talk them into spending time with you, that is not a battle worth fighting.  I’m going to let that go and start trusting God to bring me divine connections, people who will celebrate who I am.”


“Sometimes the reason people never accept us is because they are so insecure.  They’ll never give you a compliment, never let you in their group because they are threatened by you, intimidated.  And the way they express that insecurity is to try to push you down so they will look bigger.  They minimize so they can equalize.  They will diminish what you have to offer, so they wont look so small. If you will let it go, God will bring people into your life that add value to you, not take away.  People who celebrate who you are and be happy when you succeed.  Not people that find fault, people that get jealous.”


2 Sam 16:12 AMP

It may be that the Lord will look on the iniquity done me and will recompense me with good for his cursing this day.


1 Sam 17:28-30 NKJV

Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to the men; and Eliab's anger was aroused against David, and he said, "Why did you come down here? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle."

And David said, "What have I done now? Is there not a cause?" Then he turned from him ...



Words from the The Quickened Word are excerpts from the journals of Sandy Warner.  To better understand how God speaks, read Sandy’s book, “101+ Ways God Speaks, And How to Hear Him.”  Website:    Email:  







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