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RHEMA 8/08/08 FINDING THE STABILITY OF PEACE IN
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
[I was praying about suffering instability in
relationships. I have been hearing about all kinds of
people who are miserable in their jobs, marriages and
churches and it seems like they are all complaining
about the same thing: relationships.]
HEARD: To stand at the door and knock. The
prayers of the righteous. They avail much. Vigilant.
Col 4:2-3 NKJV
Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it
with thanksgiving;
HEARD: Handle this relationship.
PIX: I saw an umpire do the safe sign as
someone was coming into home base.
HEARD: Daddy’s home. I will help you.
Balance. Do not be afraid.
PIX: I saw someone kept pressing the
“Control” button over and over again.
HEARD: Setting you free from all that
ensnares. Blanket. Comfort us, Your beloved children.
And minister in the affairs of life. Peace.
Rom 12:18 NKJV
If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live
peaceably with all men.
Eph 4:1-3 NKJV
...with all lowliness and gentleness, with
longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,
endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond
of peace.
Heb 12:14-16 NKJV
Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without
which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest
anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of
bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many
become defiled;
HEARD: I helped you to be stable.
WOW GOD IS SO AMAZING
I always use my mini hand recorder to speak what I hear
and see instead of writing it. The last thing I
recorded was “I helped you to be stable.”
So today Wayne and I went shopping and while he was in
the post office I got out my pocket PC to read some
Words to Ponder. At the very moment I slide the scroll
button to the following, I heard my own voice say, “I
helped you be stable!” It totally shocked me as I stared
at my pocket PC wondering how it was speaking to me! I
knew it was a God moment but was certainly startled and
puzzled.
Then I remembered tucking my voice recorder into my
purse on the way out the door which was now on the floor
of the car. I must have kicked that part of my purse
with my toe when I reached to get my PPC. So all of this
is happening at the SAME time I am sliding my PPC stylus
down the scroll bar on the Ponders. When I felt
quickened to stop the sliding, without knowing what the
Ponder was, it stopped on the following!
Just like a computer
needs a certain background file that debugs internet
server information to keep it running stable and
secure, so do you. There are spiritual operations
that run in the background of your life and help you
process all the things that you face from day to day.
They help you do your tasks and remain stable and
secure. These operations are hidden places and not
visible, just like underlying computer files. It is
vital that these “files” be put in the correct
“directory.”
When your source is in
the wrong “direction”, the very thing that kept you
emotionally sound, will turn into a virus that eats away
your soul and causes you to suddenly freeze up and
emotionally crash. Beloved when your source for
stability and comfort is turned the wrong direction,
your tendency to crash will increase until everything
comes to a standstill. Listen to your patterns and
understand the process. The ways of the world offer
fleshly comfort, but the end is destruction. Only what
comes from My Holy Spirit will feed your life with
abundance and constancy. Lean on Me and pray over all
your tasks and all that you process in your day. As you
commit your way to Me, I will surely lead you and
keep you stable.
Prov 1:33 NKJV
But whoever listens
to me will dwell safely, and will be secure , without
fear of evil."
Heb 12:28-29 AMP
Let us therefore,
receiving a kingdom that is firm and stable and cannot
be shaken, offer to God pleasing service and acceptable
worship, with modesty and pious care and godly fear and
awe; For our God [is indeed] a consuming fire. [Deut
4:24.]
APPLICATION: Today at lunch Wayne and I had been
talking about stability in relationships with people.
And we had been talking about the different personality
types and how some clash. I realized when we were
talking that for me personally, I need God’s peace to
remain stable. And I find God’s peace in my
relationships only when I find harmony in places where
we meet. If there is discord I lose that vital peace.
Therefore I need harmony in my relationships to keep me
stable. It is part of my calling in being a peace maker
and an intercessor through bridging the gap in places
that are not in harmony in the body. However it is not
always possible to keep that harmony and I was talking
to Wayne about that. So after reading the above Word to
Ponder to Wayne he said, “Hmmmmm sounds like God wants
to D-bug your relationships.”
WAYNE'S WISDOM
Wayne said, “Some personality types are not harmonizers
by nature. So you must learn to put them into the right
directory or category in your life and the other people
in other directories and never let them cross. He said
never allow a certain personality type to have authority
over your life. Keep them at arm’s length. Live day by
day and dont do anything that causes you to worry 5 days
in advance when it comes to approaching stressful
relationships. The Lord is telling you to look back and
listen to the long track record so you dont have to go
around this track again.”
I gulped pretty hard and asked him to please repeat that
so I could type it into my rhema!!!!!
For myself, I see compartments or directories in my life
as the expectations I have in people. I have learned
that in certain personality types to have no
expectations when it comes to having healthy, equally
reciprocal, relationships. Even if they learn to give,
it is rarely balanced and equally yoked in a reciprocal
relationship. Much
of this has to do with trying to force something to
connect on the level we want that just isn’t God
ordained. I have learned that to gain my peace over
unresolved relationships is to change my expectations.
INCREDIBLE TIMING CONFIRMATION JOEL OSTEEN: So
just as I am finished typing above, I decide to go in
and watch some God TV. Joel Osteen was on and the first
thing I heard him say was:
“She didn’t do it on purpose, we just have different
personalities and different strengths!”
That got my attention!!! So I typed the following
quotes from the show in hopes that it would bless
others. This is from Podcast #395, Recognizing What
Battles to Fight.
http://mobilcast.com/joelosteenaudiopodcast
Here are some quotes from the sermon:
“Bringing tension into the house, getting uptight, it
finally dawned on me, Joel this is not a battle worth
fighting. $10 a month in electricity, is worth keeping
the peace in my home. What’s my point? The reward
was not big enough for the heartache it was causing me.”
“How many battles are you involved in that don’t have
big enough rewards? You may be right and win the
victory but a lot of time we come out so battle
scared and beat up, wounded, mad at ourselves, tension
into the house. Recognize that battle does not have big
enough rewards. You’d be better off to be the
bigger person, to let it go for the sake of peace.”
“Not every battle is worth fighting, some are simply
distractions to try to lure us from our destiny. If
there are no spoils, that’s not a battle worth
fighting.”
“Trying to prove themselves to people, trying to win
over all their critics, playing up to someone and trying
to get their approval. Those are all distractions,
we need to choose our battles wisely. We’re not
supposed to be in a fight mode all the time. A
warrior just doesn’t fight any battle, he only fights
battles where there is a spoil. If its not between you
and your God given destiny, you should simply ignore
it.”
“Somebody doesn’t like you? Somebody doesn’t want to
be your friend? Somebody is rude to you at the
office? That’s not worth starting world war 3.
No one
person can me give everything I need. I am not going to
get frustrated and try to change somebody or try to make
somebody give me something that they dont have.”
“Spending years and years trying to win the approval
of someone. Sacrificing their own goals to try to
impress a boss or win over one of their critics.
The problem is that
person is never going to give them their approval.
We need to accept that fact that not everyone is going
to like us and not everyone is going to agree with us.”
“I could compliment them every hour, send them flowers
every day, mow their lawn every week but this person is
never going to like me.
You should not waste
your valuable time and energy trying to change their
mind. If you will let that go.,.. then God will not
only send you people that accept and approve you, but He
will send people that celebrate you. People
that celebrate your talents, celebrate your personality
and celebrate your accomplishments. You wont have to
constantly be trying prove yourself, walking on egg
shells, hoping that you are good enough. No you can
just relax and be who God made you to be and they’ll
think you are the greatest thing in the world.”
“Quit wasting your time trying to win somebody over
that never going to be won over. Quit trying to make
somebody love you that’s never going to love you. Quit
trying to persuade you to be your friend when they are
never going to be your friend. If you have to
constantly play up to them and convince them you are
important and talk them into spending time with you,
that is not a battle worth fighting. I’m going to
let that go and start trusting God to bring me divine
connections, people who will celebrate who I am.”
“Sometimes the reason people never accept us is because
they are so insecure. They’ll never give you a
compliment, never let you in their group because they
are threatened by you, intimidated. And the way they
express that insecurity is to try to push you down so
they will look bigger. They minimize so they can
equalize. They will diminish what you have to offer, so
they wont look so small. If you will let it go, God
will bring people into your life that add value to you,
not take away. People who celebrate who you are and be
happy when you succeed. Not people that find fault,
people that get jealous.”
2 Sam 16:12 AMP
It may be that the Lord will look on the iniquity
done me and will recompense me with good for his cursing
this day.
1 Sam 17:28-30 NKJV
Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to
the men; and Eliab's anger was aroused against David,
and he said, "Why did you come down here? And with whom
have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know
your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have
come down to see the battle."
And David said, "What have I done now? Is there
not a cause?" Then he turned from him ... |
