TEACHING 4/22/07  HOW TO REBUILD TRUST

HEARD:  How do you prove someone is trustworthy?  Time. 

WHAT IS TRUST

Ps 18:30 NKJV

As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.

Trust is a foundation in relationship.  People trust God, loved ones, leaders and peers.  Trust is:

• To allow without fear

• To believe in someone’s reliability

• To have confident expectations of performance

• To have certainty based on past experiences

• Hope that you will not be rejected or abandoned

• Faith in someone’s authenticity to be honest

• Extending credit to someone’s integrity

• Reliance upon someone’s commitment

• Being vulnerable with confidences

• Acceptance that a word will be backed with its deed

> The foundation of trust is based on how well you know whom you trust.  This takes time in relationship between 2 reciprocal parties. 

REBUILDING TRUST

Zech 13:5 NKJV

And one will say to him, 'What are these wounds between your arms?' Then he will answer, 'Those with which I was wounded in the house of my friends .'

People lose trust in God, loved ones, leaders and peers.  How does one rebuild trust?

• Acknowledge what happened

• Be willing to forgive yourself and the other and start over

• Own up to your part of the failings and confess your faults

• Verbalize your true remorse and suffering for breaching trust

• Be accepting of someone’s best intentions

• Build a knowledge about someone

• Find insight into someone’s motives

• Assess someone’s fears and needs

• Give understanding to the person’s weaknesses

• Develop realistic expectations about someone’s performance

• Accept with unconditional love as a bridge past fear of rejection

• Build the self esteem and confidence of someone

• Be real about your level of commitment

• Be real about your lack of commitment

• Do your best to remain consistent

• Back your words with your deeds

• Deduct the person’s passions in life, the key to their commitment

• See the bigger picture outside of the breach in trust

>  The foundation of rebuilding trust is in how well you know the person.  This takes time between two interacting parties.

>  The level of someone’s commitment and trustworthiness to God will be the level of their commitment and trustworthiness to you.  It is a matter of maturity.

WHEN YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM CRUMBLES  1/06/07

Beloved ones, I understand so well how it feels to suddenly, without notice, have a support system crumble.  More often then not, these are supportive relationships that can easily wreck in the stress of life.  Relationship is like traveling a bridge over rough waters, it divides the sorrows and doubles the joy in life.  But when that bridge crumbles it is massive chaos until help comes.  I hear your cries for deliverance and healing, I AM sending My angelic helpers to build a platform over the rubble to help you see your way clear.  The secret to this platform is to keep your conversation edifying, ever mindful to build one another up, encourage and lift one another in your faith. 

Sometimes relationships are dysfunctional and what caused them to become that way comes from broken people having no way out of repeated abuse until all they know is to respond through that pain, no matter what they are dealt.  Find ways to honor and support one another.  Rebuild trust by showing a true desire for change and then walking out those changes.  Find ways to express yourself differently.  Create a new future and release the past as over and gone.   

Keep moving, dear one, don’t look back, just maneuver your way through the mess, and once away from what has crumbled, don’t stuff your feelings.  If you need to talk to someone about what has fallen, then share your burden.  Unstuff these emotions that you have carried for so long.  Pray over them.  Share your burden and bring it all to prayer.  Release and forgive, express your sorrow, move away from the pain as you pour out that which you have held inside.  These burdens are not yours to carry alone, ask Me for help.  If you feel it is too much to share with one person, then trust Me to bring you several and dispense portions of this heavy heart until you are free at last.  Commit your way to Me and I will set you free.

Eph 4:29-32 NKJV

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Isa 61:4-6 NKJV

And they shall rebuild the old ruins, They shall raise up the former desolations, And they shall repair the ruined cities, The desolations of many generations.  5 Strangers shall stand and feed your flocks, And the sons of the foreigner

Shall be your plowmen and your vinedressers.  6 But you shall be named the priests of the LORD, They shall call you the servants of our God.

Acts 15:16-17  NKJV

After! this I will return And will rebuild the tabernacle of David, which has fallen down; I will rebuild its ruins, And I will set it up;  17 So that the rest of mankind may seek the LORD, Even all the Gentiles who are called by My name, Says the LORD who does all these things.'