How To Say No

RHEMA 1/25/11 LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO IN A GRACIOUS WAY

HEARD: Felled a tree. How to say no.

rhema 8/17/09 FINDING YOUR BOUNDARIES

HEARD: Fellowship. You had to learn when to say no. You had to find your boundaries.

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TIPS ON HOW TO SAY NO GRACIOUSLY

Say thank you with a commitment to consider it or pray about it.
Do not feel obligated to tell your position or defend it.
Honor the motives of another person whether or not you agree with their behavior.
If you feel violated and your boundaries are not respected, change the subject.
If you are being cornered to explain yourself, say that you have a different perspective and want to avoid debate.
If your time is violated, explain your priorities.
Remain silent only when avoiding an argument.
Walk away and close the door to argument, after having stated your choice to avoid such.
Say no thank you, but do not reject the person in the process.
Speak in the opposite spirit by reinforcing what you say "yes" to, through saying thank you and giving positive feedback to what you agree with.

WISDOM: An argumentative spirit dishonors free will, in an attempt to coerce change. Argument is a form of witchcraft through domination over wills.

Titus 3:10-11 NLT

If people are causing divisions among you, give a first and second warning. After that, have nothing more to do with them.

2 Tim 2:23-26 NKJV

But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. 24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, 26 and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.

1 Tim 6:4-5

... he is proud, knowing nothing, but is obsessed with disputes and arguments over words, from which come envy, strife, reviling, evil suspicions, 5 useless wranglings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain. From such withdraw yourself.

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RHEMA 3/28/09 OPPORTUNITIES ARE NOT REQUIREMENTS

HEARD: Opportunities are not requirements. We are sad but we honor your decision. There you have it. Close a door. Find My will and then stick to it. Say no to the devil and all else.

POEM: FINDING YOUR BOUNDARIES

What is safe and what is not?

Is it God or demonic plot?

Look in the distance, look right here.

Balance the measure, far and near.

There’s times to stretch and times to settle.

A time for faith and not to meddle.

As you span the distance and look to Me

I will give you grace for what’s to be.

Boundaries keep you safe, they also constrict.

The flesh and the Spirit, always conflict.

Discern the voice that is calling you.

What does it nurture, is it true?

Start at your foundation, level and set.

Anchored to My Word, and take no bets.

Now draw a line from here to there.

Is it off course, challenging to dare?

Boundaries come in all kinds of boxes.

Measures set to keep out the foxes.

Relationships and business, education and faith,

Each have a flavor, each have a taste.

Nurturing fathers, provoke not to wrath.

Yield control and anger and take a bath.

Others be mentored to flame your passion.

Humble yourselves and give devotion.

Don’t let another steal your vision.

Don’t let words cause division.

Stick to your guns, but always love.

Your boundaries will be kept from above.

Don’t stretch out if you are not equipped.

Faith without works can get you ripped.

Be content and wait for Me.

I walk ahead to make a place for thee.

Psalm 16:5, 6 NKJV

LORD, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.