Sandy Warner ~ ~ ~ ~


When you engage people in conversation or relationship, it should be just like flowing water.  Water flows downhill and naturally finds its natural course.  When you tell people to reply, ask them to, beg them to, demand them to, pester them to, you end up with a forced relationship.  People can only go so far in such a place, before they cry uncle and give up.  It takes 2 to have a relationship, not one that is pulling and tugging and doing all the work to keep something going. 

When you apply pressure it is the same thing as control.  Controlling people is not agape love.  God does not demand love or relationship.

Relax a bit and not try so hard, not worry about being rejected, and not push people to respond to you.  Try not to worry so much about people's opinions about you or your life, and just enjoy chatting as it comes and goes.  Every healthy relationship needs breathing space.

Perhaps do some self introspection and find out why these things seem to be your pattern, and ask the Lord to do some surgery and also healing.


Lord I ask that whatever is inside of us that fears rejection, fears being slighted, fears being isolated or needs people approval will be loosed and set free in Jesus Name.  Help us overcome these things and please spotlight them so that we can grow into healthy relationships that are really meaningful.  in Jesus Name.


Prov 18:24 NKJV

A man who has friends must himself be friendly,  But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.


Prov 27:14 NKJV

He who blesses his friend with a loud voice, rising early in the morning,

It will be counted a curse to him.


Prov 27:6 NKJV

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.



Words from the The Quickened Word are excerpts from the journals of Sandy Warner.  To better understand how God speaks, read Sandy’s book, “101+ Ways God Speaks, And How to Hear Him.”  Website:    Email:  







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