Sandy Warner ~ ~ ~ ~

WHEN WE SUFFER LOSS - Bitter or Better


Hi Loved Ones,

Sometimes when we suffer loss it is a result of our own mistakes. Sometimes it is a result of undeserved injustice. Recently I was faced with an injustice, was not able to fix it and as a result I suffered loss. When we suffer loss, responding correctly does not mean that we do not hurt, cry, mourn, and even grieve. However within the pain, God gives us a choice. We have the choice to become bitter or better.

As I was driving on the way to the meeting to ask for justice, I heard the Lord say, "Vengeance is Mine, says the Lord." I was really startled when I heard this, because I have the gift of mercy and do not think in terms of retaliation and getting even. I was so unfamiliar with the concept I wasn’t even sure what He meant by that. After the appointment (and my silently begging for the Lord’s help all the way through it), I walked away convinced that this man had a very hard heart. Confused, I walked away, lost my peace, was hurting and angry at the injustice — and knew I had a choice. I could become bitter or better. I cried to the Lord to help me through the process and not choose bitter!

As I was thinking about the phrase, "Vengeance is Mine, says the Lord" I felt somewhat comforted by it. Even though I did not know what He meant, I felt He was My BIG Protector, and He was not very pleased with this man’s treatment of me - and furthermore He knew ahead of time that this man would not budge.

When I came to grips with the fact that I had suffered loss and there was no way to repair it short of divine intervention, I looked up the word vengeance. It meant punishment. I was comforted by His fierce love for me, but I said, "Lord I forgive this man!! If I do not forgive him, he will do the same thing to someone else, and furthermore he may become worse because of the spirits loosed when someone judges. And Lord, it sure doesn’t do me any good if You put this man out of business, it doesn’t change the fact that I still have been ripped off. And Lord, if I do not forgive, You said in Your Word that I would be given over to the tormentors. I FORGIVE LORD, PLEASE DO NOT HOLD THIS AGAINST HIM. IN FACT BLESS HIS BUSINESS LORD!" I found my peace through this prayer even though I still faced the loss. At least I was at peace.

When I got home I started looking up scriptures on the justice of God. The following is what I found and it helped me face the disappointment of the loss. When it came to the bottom line, the scriptures are very clear and I had the choice to believe God or not to believe God. If I chose to believe God, then my heart would be better and not bitter, and furthermore I would receive 7 times the repayment for what I had lost! WOW.

1] God is Just - He will balance the scales

The scripture says, "A just balance and scales belong to the LORD; All the weights of the bag are His concern." (Prov 16:11 NASU)

Just like in the gold rush days where they measured their weight of the gold on balance scales - God measures everything. He sees when the scales tip towards injustice and He delights in balancing the scales.

If we try to balance the scales ourselves and fight for our rights, then we tie His hands to fight for us. If we give it to Him, it becomes His battle and He tips the scales for us. We fight for ourselves when we lash back and we take on the following characteristics: revenge, anger, bitterness, slander, gossip, accusation, debate, deceit, lies, backbiting, intimidation, control, unforgiveness, etc.

[Scriptures on just weight and balances: Job 31:6, Lev 19:35-36, Deut 25:13-15, Prov 11:1, Prov 20:10, Prov 20:23, Ezek 45:10, Hos 12:7, Amos 8:5, Mic 6:11]

Question: Do I really believe God is just? If so then:

Key to a better heart: Lord, You delight in balancing the scales. If I tried to fight the battle myself, I would botch it up. Please balance the injustice and make it right.

2] God will repay 7 fold

The scripture says, "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord." (Rom 12:19 KJV)

"For we know him who said, "Justice belongs to me; I will repay them"; who also said, "The Lord himself will handle these cases." It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God." (Heb 10:30-31 TLB)

Recently someone sent me their vision while spending ‘floor time’. He said the verse appeared, "I will repay you seven-fold for the years the locusts have eaten..." When he got up from the floor, he looked up the verse and was puzzled as to the missing word "seven-fold." It was then that he realized he had received a vision from the Lord. (Joel 2:25-29)

It is scriptural that the enemy pay back 7 fold what he stole. (Ps 79:12, Prov 6:31) It is also scriptural to be punished 7 fold. (Gen 4:15, Lev 26:21, Lev 26:28)

Question: Do I really believe God will repay? If so, then:

Key to a better heart: Lord thank You for Your promise! I trust in You to repay me 7 fold for what has been taken from me.

3] God is Sovereign

When David was being cursed by one of Saul’s family. Instead of retaliating, David said, "No! If the Lord has told him to curse me, who am I to say no? My own son is trying to kill me, and this Benjaminite is merely cursing me. Let him alone, for no doubt the Lord has told him to do it. And perhaps the Lord will see that I am being wronged and will bless me because of these curses." (2 Sam 16:10-12 TLB) David was so humble and so trusted in God’s defense, that he believed the Benjaminite could not curse him unless the Lord had told him to do it!

Jesus believed the same thing. When He was replying to Pilate at His trial, Jesus said, "You could have no power at all against Me unless it had been given you from above. Therefore the one who delivered Me to you has the greater sin." (John 19:10-11 NKJV)

The scripture says, "I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things." (Isa 45:7 KJV)

Question: Do I really believe God is in control? If so, then:

Key to a better heart: Lord I believe You are completely in control of my life. Nothing happens without Your permission. I trust that You know what is best even if I do not understand.



There are many kinds of losses: physical, spiritual, emotional, people, dreams, hopes, financial, health, time, etc. It is not important whether the loss was caused by the devil, people, natural circumstances, judgment or our own mistakes. In the end, what is relevant is that just like the book of Job, God said, "Yes." So why does He say yes? The following are some of the scriptural reasons why He says yes:

1) So that we become like Jesus. (Rom 8:29)

2) So that we follow in His footsteps (1 Peter 2:21)

3) So that we will embrace the cross. (Matt 16:24-25)

4) So that we will bear more fruit. (John 15:2)

5) So that we will overcome (Rev 12:11)

6) So that our faith will be tried (1 Peter 1:7)

7) So that we will be purified (Mal 3:3)

8) So that we develop character (Rom 5:3,4)

9) So that we will become patient (James 1:2-4)

10) So that we will receive the crown of life (James 1:12)

11) So that the Spirit of glory will rest upon us (I Peter 4:14)

12) So that we can enter the kingdom of God (Acts 14:22)

13) So that we may be counted worthy of the kingdom of God (2 Thess 1:5)

14) So that we may reign with Him (2 Tim 2:12)

15) So that we yield the peaceful fruit of righteousness (Heb 12:11)

16) So that we will be separate from the filthy things (2 Cor 6:17)

17) So that which cannot be shaken will remain (Heb 12:26-29)

18) So that we will wait on Him (Prov 20:22)

19) So that our hearts will be known (Jer 17:10)

20) So that we will be corrected (Jer 10:24)

21) So that our motives will be examined (Ps 7:9)

22) So that our hearts will become pure (Prov 17:3)

23) So that we will reign with Him (2 Tim 2:12)

24) So that we will be comforted (2 Cor 1:6)

25) So that we may know Him (Phil 3:10)

26) So that we may rejoice when His glory is revealed (1 Peter 4:13)

27) So that we will be made perfect, established, strengthened & settled (1 Peter 5:10)

28) So that we will be chastened (Heb 12:7)

29) So that joy will come in the morning (Prov 3:5)

30) So that His time & purpose will be fulfilled in our lives (Eccl 3:1)

31) Etc., etc. etc., etc., etc.!

In closing I would like to share a dream my husband had a week ago. He saw the top of someone’s head, with a full crown of hair. Then he saw the enemy come up and spit a big glob on top of the hair. The person felt thoroughly unclean and vile. Then as he looked, the spit turned into a large pearl. He knew the Lord had changed this curse into a large pearl of great price. Then he had a brief vision of a crown that was made of precious stones. It was not a crown of gold with stones attached to it, rather the crown was being created from adjoining jewels: large stones, rubies, sapphires and the pearl.






Words from the The Quickened Word are excerpts from the journals of Sandy Warner.  To better understand how God speaks, read Sandy’s book, “101+ Ways God Speaks, And How to Hear Him.”  Website:    Email:  







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